Funny Things My Step Kid Says

Good morning everyone!!!!

How have you all been? Anyone watching the Superbowl? Neither Luis, Jackson or I are into watching sports so we are going to skip out on the game, but hope everyone who does watch enjoys themselves!  I'd thought I'd write today about the funny things Jackson tells me.  I laugh while I'm writing this because this kid seems to like discussing his poop with me.  Just yesterday we were picking up some ice cream for my mother in law and he saw some spicy chips on display at the store and asked me if I had ever tried them.  I told him that I hadn't.  he said that his grandpa had bought him a medium size bag of the chips and he ate them all.  That the next time he had to do a #2 it hurt really bad. I was laughing on the inside because I realized then that he likes to tell me about his poop.  Now I don't mind at all.  I myself discuss my poop with others on a daily basis. I'm not ashamed!  It seems like neither is Jackson.  He's told me about his diarrhea incidents.  About him getting his underwear dirty with watery farts and letting me know when he got his undies dirty with those farts so I can grab him  a fresh pair. I'm glad we can have those kinds of talks and he doesn't feel embarrassed to talk to be about something very personal with me.  I hope that he he continues to have these conversations with me and that if he ever needs to talk to someone about something personal he'll know that he can come to me any time and that I won't judge him one bit.

Great Balls of Fire!

I know this isn't step mom related but oh my great goodness! I fell in love with some makeup removing wipes!!! They are the Garnier Clean Soothing Makeup Removing Cleansing Towelettes. I just had to share them because I have the most sensitive eyes when it comes to makeup removing wipes that I have to use another separate product to take off my eye makeup. I saw these wipes at Target and since they said they were for sensitive skin (which I have) I thought I would try them out and see if they sting my eyes. THEY DIDN'T!!! Mascara, long wear eyeliner, everything was gone! Didn't bother my skin at all. It was love at first swipe! I just had to share with you guys!!! If you have sensitive skin or your eyes are sensitive like mine, I highly recommend trying this product!

Here's a little more info on them. 

$4.99 (at Target) 

Packaging claims: No fragrance or dye. Free of drying alcohol.  Removes waterproof makeup with no rubbing. Towelettes are infused with Micellar Cleansing Technology (idk what that is) 

Formula infused with Calming Plant Extract and Vitamin E

Results:

In 1 use: Skin is calmed, clean and impurities are completely removed. 

After 1 week: Skin is softer, smoother and comforted. 

Hope you guys liked this little review.  If you want more please let me know. I love beauty and skincare products so I'd be more than happy so more.

When She Found Out

Hi!!!!


So the last of my little stories is finally here and the last one is about Bellatrix finding out about Luis and I.



  I can’t remember how long it took for her to find out but I knew I didn't want to hide it from her.  It wasn't right.  I told Luis that we needed to tell her and asked him who should do it, him or me?   He decided that it was best for him to tell her.  He didn't tell me when he was going to tell her, but one night I got a message saying that he was telling her and when he told me, text  her with the word “me”.  So I did.   I never asked him what he told her.  I knew no matter what he told her she wasn't going to be happy and boy was I right!  I got a text minutes later (funny how all of a sudden she was texting me when I hadn't heard from her for months) from her and she was pissed.  She called me every name in the book.  Even in Spanish.   Of course I told her I was sorry that I didn't mean to fall for Luis, but I did.  She still continued to call me names.   She said she hoped I got pregnant and on and on she went.  Finally after 30 minutes of her going off on me and me not retaliating I told that I had had enough.  I was trying to be the bigger person and not fight with her.  She still continued to text me and go off so I would just delete the messages.  I didn't even bother to read them.  I text Luis to see how she was with him and he said she was the same way.  The texts stopped after about an hour later.  Finally!!! I know she was very hurt, but damn this chick was just going off!  Then it all stopped for like a week.  Was she finally going to accept it....?  NO!!!! She started up gain.  Then randomly she would text me saying she wanted to stop fighting and be "friends"? Umm... girly you were the one that was fighting.  Not me.  Of course after wanting to be my "friend" she would get mad that I wouldn't do things her way and she hated me again.  There was a period of time when she would text my phone to talk to Luis when she was upset and needed someone.  She would call to invite him to the movies.  Even though she had a boyfriend (her now fiance) .  Can you belive that?  She did that for a solid couple of months if not more.  It didn't matter that Luis would hang upon her or tell her that he didn't care about her, he only cared about Jackson.  Oh no, this girl would still continue.  Then came the day when Jackson called me Mommy  (I'll tell that story in another blog) and she finally had enough and took Jackson away for over a year.  Of course she would show up once when she need something or wanted something done her way but when she didn't get it she'd get pissed and wouldn't show up again, until she needed something.  To this day she still hates my guts but she's a lot less crazy than she was.  I had to block her from everything possible. I still don't trust her as far as I can throw her.  Neither does Luis.  At the current moment she is trying to co-parent with Luis.  Which is good for her.  Will it last? I don't know.  I guess I can only hope. 

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Luis and our begning....

Hiya!

 It doesn't seem like I'm getting to the step mom part of this blog huh? I realized that today. I just keeping talking about the past and none of it has to do with being a step mama.  Get out of the past Bri!

 But I think things might make more sense if you know a little of what happened.  So I'll try and hurry up and get through telling my little stories and get to the actual STEPMOMMING (is that a word?)of this blog.


Here's the story of how Luis and I became friends to more than friends to being together to this very day.  I still can't believe that it happened and how it happened but I'm glad it did.  Let's start already!  One day while planning my ex boyfriends birthday party (boyfriend at the time) I text Luis to ask if him he and Bellatrix were going to attend.  Bellatrix was not responding and I needed to know a head count. I kept getting replies with "no's" and "......" and I know that "......." means that something is wrong.  What if something had happened to Bellatrix or the baby? I called him immediately. He answered the phone crying! My heart stopped. Something horrible had happened! I asked him what had happened and he revealed to that he and Bellatrix had broken up.  Poor guy! He was heartbroken!  He had been chewed up and spit out!  I told him that he would get better and find another girl and responded "but no one like her". She was even going to take the baby. I felt so bad for him.  There must be something to make this guy feel better.  Then  it hit me!  My very close guy friend had just broken up with his girlfriend! He was a mess to! Why not get them together for a game night?  They could probably help each other out. Vent and stuff.  Did guys do that? Well they were going to start! I would make them!  So I arranged for a game night  where we would all have to dance and make ourselves look like fools.  It surely would make the two heartbroken guys laugh, and lets be truthful, I had been wanting to play the game for some time.  I had also invited my cousin and my best friend to join in.  The night ended up begin a success.  I'm not sure if there was a lot of venting, but both guys ended up having fun.  It felt good to make people feel better.  So as the month passed we all would hang out.  Mostly at my house (my mom was cool and dint mind my friends) and mostly playing video games.  It was a lot of fun.  My boyfriend at time was just becoming too much for me and time  away from him made me feel better.  As I type this I guess I needed my friends much more than I though they needed me. One day I was at home venting to my best friend about my relationship and I got a phone call.  it was Luis.  I answered it  Luis had asked me what kind of Starbucks did I like. I said a White Chocolate Mocha. I asked him why and he said he was going to bring me one.  I thought it was a little odd but hey maybe he's thanking me for being a good friend.  My best friend on the other hand thought differently.  "He likes you, no one brings a girl a Starbucks just because" he told me (my best friend was a guy).  I told my him to shut his mouth, that Luis was probably still in love with Bellatrix and I didn't see us going past friendship.  Oh boy did I eat my words.  As the months passed Luis would start to come over just by himself and we would hang out and I got to know him.  I knew I was doomed the day I caught myself looking in the mirror before he was coming over.  What was I doing!?!?!?!  I was in a 3 year relationship with someone and he was my friends ex boyfriend.  You know the girl rule.  You don't date your friends ex.  You just don't!  I had to drop whatever it it I was feeling and I tried just that, but I found myself thinking about him.  I couldn't deny the fact
 that I was getting a crush on this guy.  Then there must have been crazy in the air because I ended up inviting him to Vegas with my best friend.  I by then was tired of my relationship with my boyfriend and I needed to be away from him.  I needed to have fun and laugh and just be me.  So we all went.  I declared myself single for that trip.  I was over all the stress and sadness.  I was in Vegas with my friends and I was going to have fun. I was 18 at the time so I couldn't drink, but I could shop and be a silly teenager.  We all went to Circus Circus, my friend went gambling and since Luis and I went to that place  where you can play those carnival games.  Luis didn't win a single game.  I however won quite I few.  We were having fun and laughing.  I couldn't remember having that much fun in a years.  It was nice.  He ended up kissing me that day.  I didn't turn away.  It was wrong but I melted.  That kiss changed me forever.  As the weekend passed we would kiss and hold hands and act like punk teenagers (which we were).  I knew I had to break up with my boyfriend.  That I didn't love him, that I stopped loving him over a year ago. It wasn't fair to him.  I honestly didn't think what Luis and I had in Vegas was going to last.  We were both lonely and used each other for comfort.  When the trip ended we came home and he kissed me goodbye.  I thought "well, it was nice while it lasted".  I broke up with my boyfriend that very same day.  I told him what had happened.  That I was sorry but that I realized I didn't love him and our relationship had been a lie for quite some time.  It heart my heart hurt him, but I couldn't go on pretending to be happy when I wasn't.  It hurt too much.  I was sad for a bit, but I expected that.  What I didn't expect was Luis to be calling me, texting me, bringing me flowers.  Was this guy for real? He couldn't have grown that much affection for me. Could he?Then at a group Disneyland trip he asked me to be his girlfriend in front of the fireworks and i accepted.  I wasn't sure on if the relationship would last or if I was making a mistake, but honestly I didn't give a damn!  I threw caution to the wind and almost 5 years later we are still together.  He's my best friend. I love him.

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Wow wasn't that a story? Kinda long, I know.  Next blog I decided will hopefully be the last of my little past stories and that will be Bellatrix's response to when she finds out Luis and I are dating.  Thank you so much to everyone whose been reading! It means a lot to me! I'm going to find something to drink and call it a night

A Little Bit Extra:

I found this cute little quote on Pinterest.  I just searched "living in the past quotes".  If I did it right here's the link to it: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/318840848589982677/

Little Fact: I like listening to Ice Cube Radio on Pandora when I write on this blog.  Something about the music makes my head nod and helps the words flow.

The Beginning: Bellatrix

hello again!



It's a rainy day here.  Makes me want to sit, have a blanket wrapped around me and write.  So that's exactly what I'm going to do!  I've decided today I would tell you about the relationship with the biological mother (Bellatrix) of my step child I had before she decided to change her opinion on me. Now, I know most relationships between bio moms and step moms are pretty much rocky.  On the rare occasion there are relationships are awesome and the whole family can co parent together splendidly.  I envy these people. I hope one day that I can say that the relationship with bio mom is awesome and we all get along.  Sadly though, right now I can't say that.  I must admit though, it's not as high conflict and crazy as it used to be. Thank goodness, but we do still have a lot of kinks to work out.  So before this little intro gets any longer let's get into it.

If you read my first blog you already know Bellatrix and I were friends in high school.  We met in our third period Earth Science class of our freshman year  of high school.  She was 14 and I was 15.  Our friendship was that of typical teenage girls. Talking in class, copying off each others school work, sharing food and secrets, etc.  We weren't best friends but we were good friends.  I believe (now I'm not 100% sure) that  I was one of the first group of people she told about her pregnancy with Jackson. I could be completley wrong though, i could have been the last person. Like I said, we weren't best friends. Now I know for a fact she told me two stories. One was that her and Luis had planned Jackson and the other was that she and her best friend had made a bet on which girl could get pregnant first  (Belltatrix won)  Either way I thought that this girl was a little nuts to be having sex and planning a baby.  I hadn't had even had my first kiss yet! but she was my friend and I wasn't going to just stop being her friend because of her decision to have a baby.  To each their own. As freshman year passed she grew in her pregnancy and our friendship remained the same. I had met Luis,  in my opinion he was a wild person who wore toooooooo much black, but what did my opninion matter? I wasn't having a baby with him.  Later I recived an invite to the baby shower and I attended.  That was probably the last time I talker to her for 3-4 months.  I got no news of Jackson being born or anything like that.  I actually didn't talk to her again until the first day of  sophomore  year. We had a math class together and we both were in drama club and the school play together.  As the year passed we become close friends.  She would come over  my house a few times a month to hang out and bake. We would go to the mall and beach. Text a lot and spend most of our time in class talking.  Our math teacher would have to separate us a few times because of how much we were talking, but then after the play was over and drama club ended we didn't see each other as much.  We only really talked in our math class.  Later in the year I left the school we lost touch, she would call or text me when she was mad at Luis (she had moved into his house during this time) and needed a place to escape to or when she needed a ride somewhere.  She would also come over when she needed to use my computer then just leave when she was done. I began together tired of this but, since she had a baby, I felt bad. Eventually we would barley talk.  A text message here and there when she needed something.  I was getting pretty tired of it. What kind of friend was that?  Eventually I just stopped talking to her.  What we had wasn't a friendship anymore.  I din't hear from her again until the day she found out that Luis and I were dating, and that ladies and gentlemen is another story.

So how am I at this blogging thing? Am I terribly boring? I hope that you guys (if there are any of you) are enjoying it.  Thank you again for reading!

Me?...Bri?...A step mom?

If I were to travel to the past to tell my 18 year old self that I would one day become a step mom, "Me?... Bri?... a step mom?" is probably what I would have replied with.

Hi, I'm Brianna. Bri for short. (no one calls me Brianna, not even my grandma) I've come here to blog about my 4 year experience ( 5 years this spring) of being a step mamma. I wanted to write because I know that reading about other step mammas and their blended (hers, his, ours) family stories helped me feel like I wasn't the only one going through what I was going through. Sounds cheesy right? but its true. Maybe this one little blog could reach one person and make them feel better. If it did that would be a amazing. With this blog I want to tell my story as a young step mom. Is 23 young? I think so. Maybe put up funny little pictures, or fun crafts to do with the kiddos. I've never blogged before so please forgive me if I'm horrible at it.  Now, lets start off with getting to know a little bit of the basics of my world.

Well you already know I'm Bri, I'm 23 and I've been a step mama for 4 years. Here's a little more.  Obviously for there to be a step child, there needs to be a biological parent and that is Luis.  My step child's dad. We have been together 4 years. Going on 5 this May. We met in high school but didn't start dating until 3 years later. He's a pain in my butt, but hes a good guy. Luis and I aren't married. Which technically and legally doesn't make me a step mom but we both don't care. To him I am his sons mommy. An issue I'll discuss as I progress with this blog. Luis is 24 and has a 7 year old son, who you guessed is my step son. I don't feel comfortable (or that I have the right) to put my step sons name so let's call him....wow...I'm having a hard time choosing a name here... Ok, I  went on this website  http://www.babycenter.com/popular-baby-boy-names-2014 and chose Jackson. If you did the math you'll notice that Luis was quite a young father. He was only 16 when he found out he was going to be a dad. Young huh? The things you do when you're young, dumb and in love.  This about the time I met Luis and honestly it was all thanks to Jackson's (biological) mother. I also don't feel right putting her real name so lets call her Bellatrix. Bellatrix.....,the "REAL" mom of Jackson. The biological mother. Every step moms nightmare at one point or another. If you are a step mama I think you know what I am talking about. Anyways, I knew Bellatrix because we had the same classes together as Freshmen in high school. We were even friends. Yes, I know you are not supposed to date a friends ex but there's a lot more to this story. I take all responsibility for my actions and like I've been saying I'll be uncovering the story as this blog goes on.  So, at this point in my life Luis and Bellatrix were dating and were expecting Jackson. I myself was in my first relationship ever and was madly infatuated with the boy I was dating. Luis was the last thing on my mind at the time, but I would talk to Bellatrix. I still remember the day she told me she was expecting Jackson. I thought she was crazy, a barley 14 year old girl pregnant? The father of the kid must be crazy too!  Poor 15 year old Bri didn't know what she was in for a few years down the line. So needless to say I knew Jackson ever since he was a teeny tiny little thing. I guess that is why is was easy for him to be around me as his daddy's girlfriend (he was 2, a few months away from 3 when Luis and I started dating). He seemed to take a liking to me right away (as daddy's girlfriend) and we currently have a great relationship. Actually I was blessed because we've always has an awesome relationship. I consider the 3 of us as a little family even though we only get to see Jackson every 2nd, 4th and 5th weekend. We both hope to have him over more often, but its always one court case at a time. I'm grateful have him more and that Jackson seems to be enjoying himself and love being being with his daddy.  So I think that pretty much sums up the basics.  I hope this post wasn't too boring. Thank you for reading and I'll post again soon.